Can I ask you the price you bought it for back then? I understand it's just not sold on Ebay and can only be bought directly in the US. It's just that I'm in Europe and need to look for intermediaries).
About the bios. According to my assumption for correct start of Vbios card there should be a response from system bios about 4g addressing support. Presence of ReBar module is secondary and is necessary for acceleration of work, but is not a prerequisite. Therefore 4G decoding is a problem in our case, because it is not provided in the bios itself (there are no such hidden options in the latest versions of bios for m17x r4, r5, m18x r2 - I checked). In general, for ivy bridge platform I've seen only one successful case of enabling this function - for desktop ASUS P8Z77-V PRO, but it uses their proprietary bios and there is just such a hidden option.
In the case of our laptops we use another platform bios from Insyde and there is no such setting either for ivy bridge platform or for Haswell and I don't know anything about adding such support, it is necessary to have access directly to the documentation of this company.
That's why I say that it is easier to modify the vbios of the card and remove this check that did not allow to start the laptop with native vbios, but at the same time with the bios from dell it started.
Of course, so far these are my assumptions, but I want to check them in practice.
At least it is possible to test the card in a desktop motherboard with the debug connector connected and see the error message.
Just for fun, I checked - the "4G decoding" setting appears in the bios of the Alienware 17 R2. In earlier models, unfortunately, it just doesn't exist